Your toddler is lying on the supermarket floor having a tantrum. Everyone is staring. You feel utterly embarrassed. You just want to grab your child and run! I personally have got down on the floor and thrown my own tantrum right along with him and there has never been another problem since, but if this is not your style here are some other tips to help you out!
The ‘terrible twos’ are fraught with anxiety and tension. For you and your child. Your little one starts to make sense of the world. Your world increasingly makes less sense. Try some of these tips to stay in control of your toddler.
Toddlers have short attention spans. They won’t remember what they were displeased about five minutes after they react. Distractions can diffuse most tantrums. Point out something for them to look at. Turn their attention to something else. Make them forget why they were cross. Have a toy in your handbag https://www.educationaltoysplanet.com/toddlers.html. Something that is brightly coloured or makes a noise.
No means no. When our children act up in public, it’s very tempting just to give in to them. A sweet to pacify. An ice cream to make them smile. Toddlers need to know who the boss is. And that is you. As the adult, you call the shots. Give in once, and your toddler will know how to get their way. Be the adult at all times. Show your toddler who is the boss!
Understand the Triggers
A full-on temper tantrum is hard to control. Recognising the triggers will help prevent a tantrum from starting. And escalating. Every child will have different trigger points. Anger. Anxiety. Hunger. Tiredness. Boredom. Lack of control. Identify what causes your toddler to have a meltdown. And win the war!
Toddlers win when they have a captive audience. The more you react, the more they will act up. They want your attention. So don’t give it to them. Ignore a tantrum as much as possible. Highlight it, and they have won.
Give them Choices
Toddlers communicate their displeasure when they have a tantrum. They are starting to make sense of the world. However, they don’t have the range of vocabulary to express the complexity of emotions. So they employ theatricals to gain attention. Some moms constantly say ‘no’ to their children. This can demoralize and depower a toddler. Rather than saying ‘no’ give them choices. We can do this or this. We can go there or there. Give toddlers control.
Don’t Punish Them
When we’re shown up by our toddlers in public, it’s natural to want to shout at them. To tell them that what they have done is wrong. But young children don’t know their behavior is wrong, necessarily. They are just expressing themselves. Strong-willed they may be. But to punish them is to draw attention to their tantrum. Ignore it. Deal with it and move on. Instead, praise them when they are good. They will soon learn what gets mommy’s approval and what doesn’t.
Toddlers are little people with big personalities. Expressing themselves is a natural part of their development. Don’t punish yourself; thinking your child’s behavior is a reflection on your parenting skills. It’s part and parcel of being a toddler. Just learn to get through this stage and look forward to the teenage years!