Finding it hard to find time to workout? Finding it hard to even find time to shower?! Well, parents, I feel your pain…but it’s worth it, isn’t it?
I never believed those parents who said “Cherish your alone time now” or “Get all the sleep you can” or even – my favorite – “If you think you’re tired now…” Well, I heard what they had to say and I’m not saying they were wrong, they just aren’t me.
Seth and I have been parents for five weeks now. I’ve been home on maternity leave and still have another three to go. As I get to learn what each cry means, figuring out how long to hold the baby upright so he won’t get gassy or even not staring at the clock because he has to be fed every three hours, I find it challenging to get that little bit of time to myself … to just do whatever! (Much less trying to hold a plank for a minute or two.)
We all know that babies can be very unpredictable. (Wait, sorry, I’ll be right back, it’s diaper changing time ☺) They get cranky (sometimes) for no reason and if there is a reason, we (as parents) can’t tell them to just stop crying and leave me alone for ten minutes. But in the grand scheme of things, I LOVE every second of it. So what if I don’t have 20 minutes to shower, so what I haven’t eaten a truly hot meal in a few weeks…it’s ALL worth it. Every stinkin’ moment. I must say that I have the best husband in the world. When he gets home from work, he grabs Aiden (our beautiful son), feeds him, walks the dog (Callie) and feeds the baby one last time before bed. I’ve heard of a lot of daddies that don’t help out as much and I am so grateful for those few moments Seth gives me so I get to get my workout in (although it may be short), whatever it is that I’d like to do before bed time, he’s a huge help.
Having a family is very challenging and I can’t lie, the thought of losing friends or not being able to be social has gone through my head more than I’d like to admit. It’s a whole new life changing experience and I wouldn’t trade it in for the world.
Seth and I aren’t the type of parents to keep our baby locked in the apartment, even though it’s freezing and snowing outside. We’ve already taken him to breakfast and dinner with us and yesterday I ventured with Aiden to the mall and the mecca of baby stores, Buy Buy Baby. He was so well behaved and we even had a lunch date! (Literally I had him in one hand with the bottle pressed to his mouth and me using my other to eat my salad).
Speaking of lunch, it’s time for his mid-afternoon feeding …
(Long Pause) Alright, back until seven o’clock.
As I get to know Aiden more and more each day a routine has started to form and I’m finally able to figure out when to get personal tasks out of the way.
Any mom (or dad) that tells you it’s impossible to have alone time or a social life after you’ve had a kid is dead wrong. Being there for one another (as Seth and I are) makes it easy for me to get my nails done, grab lunch with friends, etc… and vice versa. Being a team allows for us to respect one another and helps to make our relationship grow stronger. And better yet, we get to know our son individually as well as, as a team. Having a baby is the best thing that can happen to a person. No one likes change, but figuring out how to alter your routine and your lifestyle is simple. Being organized and diligent about waking up earlier, feeding yourself before the baby wakes up, taking the dog out and/or working out while your significant other is still home so he/she can watch the baby, it all works out when you work together.
Nothing makes me happier to say that I’m in the process (and making progress) in finding my new routine. My new life with our new addition only makes me want to work harder at being the best mom, wife and friend as possible.
Stay healthy, happy and fit!
Stefanie has been a fitness enthusiast for her entire life. From the age of three, she started dancing and continued for eighteen years. After college, she chose to get certified in mat and reformer Pilates, as well as barre and spin and most recently SGX and childrens’ diet and sports nutrition. She focused a lot on anatomy throughout her training and came to love pre/postnatal exercising. Besides basic private and group training, she holds private pre/postnatal Pilates sessions. She applies all of her anatomy training to all classes she teaches, especially to modify for those with injuries, pregnancies etc …
Once she started working in a boutique gym she was given the freedom to create classes using resistance bands, a total upper body workout and circuit training accompanied with HIIT workouts. After creating classes, she got interested in Obstacle Course Race’s and has completed 11 races between 2013 and early 2014. Since her son was born 5 months ago she has completed 3 more.