I was taking monkey man to school yesterday and something occurred to me… all the moms always look so tired. I mean the working moms come to school drop off and are all done up in their makeup and nice clothes and most of the stay at home moms are in their sweats, some with make up some without, but most of us look exhausted. Like just spent the night sleeping on a bed of nails exhausted.
For me, I feel exhausted because I NEVER feel like I am able to have a set schedule. When I was working I knew I was going to be doing this here and now. I knew I was going to have help when I got home because we were both working. Now I feel like I am never done cleaning up a mess, changing someone’s clothes, washing laundry, making meals, driving everywhere, making phone calls, and everything else that comes with being home.
I have no 9-5 I am working. There is no break from the little energy sucker I have for a son. I get 2 hours 3 days a week while he is at preschool and that’s it. It takes about 20 min to get to his school and about another 10 min to find parking. That doesn’t give me much time to get anything done while he is away.
While he is with me I swear he gets his energy by siphoning it out of me. That is seriously my theory, they sneak into our room at night with their little energy siphons and suck it right out of us and that’s where they get all of their energy. Makes total sense to me!
All this extra energy he now has makes everything with him take 10 times longer then it would without him. It takes me about 20 min to get ready in the morning when he isn’t around and that is from the time I get out of the bed to driving down the street. When he is home and I have to just get him and myself dressed fed and shoes on it can take 2 hours. Because heaven forbid he just holds still for 5 min so that I can get his shirt over his head. Or that we can find a shirt at all that we agree is good to wear for the day because lets be honest, you can only where your army tank shirt so many days in a row without it being washed because you won’t even go without sleeping in it.
Then there is the huge problem of going to the grocery store with him. He is now too big to fit in a cart so that makes two options for him. I can either have him stand on the back while I push, as he jumps off 100 times to grab some junk food that I am not going to buy him, or have him push one of those little kid carts that allow them to push it into shelves knocking things over, poor little old ladies, or leave it in the middle of the aisle while they attempt to fill the entire thing with Pringles and chocolate milk without you noticing. Thanks by the way to whoever thought it was a great idea to have those, you are obviously not a mother because you would know that it leads to nothing but me having a meltdown in the supermarket.
The only thing that really doesn’t take any longer with a kid is driving through one of those car washes at the gas station. Really, that is the one and only thing I can think of that I have done in the last 5 years that has not taken any longer than it would without him around.
The other thing that makes me so unbelievably tired is the 3 billion questions I have to answer every day. The most used of all is “Mom can I do something?” Which by the way is his way of hinting at wanting to play a video game on my phone which is 9 times out of 10 answered with a no that leads to ALOT of pouting and yelling and crying and being mad and saying he is going to run away because I am the worst mom in the entire world. The second most used is “Mom can you do me a favor?” Preceded by one of a million things he wants me to do right then and there.
In the end, there are so many reasons why moms are always so tired, but it all results in the fact that being a mom is the hardest job in the world. There is no other job that required you to be on call 24/7/365 for the rest of your life with no days off. There is no other job that you can not take a vacation from. For us moms, it is so hard to take any time away and not have at least a part of our minds on our kids because we feel like they are a part of us since before they are even born. It is a part of us that is out in the world away from us and all that worrying is exhausting.
So mama’s, Don’t ever question why you are exhausted, trust me there are some pretty darn cute little energy siphons out there in the world that are responsible for every one of your yawns.
Go get yourself some coffee, take a minute to lock yourself in your room and take a deep breath, you have earned it because no matter how hard you try, they are never going to give you any of that energy they took in the middle of the night back and coffee is the closest you are ever going to get to a replacement for it. At least your Keurig will share some energy with you, right?
How do you get your energy back?