Do you ever just feel like you can’t let something go until you respond? Well, Monday was a rough day for me. Towards the end of the day I went to the grocery store and ended up having to discipline Monkey Man while I was there. One lady responded loudly to her friend that I must have a short temper and something about my poor son having to have a mom like me and that she would never act that way with her children. Well, 4 days later I have calmed down a bit and still wanted to be able to respond.
To the lady at the grocery store that loudly proclaimed I have a short temper and you would never be like that when you are a mother: I understand you saw me tell my son to knock it off and when he didn’t listen to me and stop jumping around the store I spanked him and put him in the cart. I know you feel like it is just a boy being a boy and trying to have fun when he is somewhere so boring. I know you think you know it all but I would love to fill you in on what you don’t know because 5 years ago I was you.
You didn’t know that I am the mother of a little boy that from the time of his birth has only slept 4-6 hours of a 24 hour cycle. You didn’t know that my son suffers from migraine disorder that causes me to have to limit the food he eats, give him medication at a certain time and stick to a schedule built just for him. You didn’t know that I only got 3 hours of sleep last night, woke up to a child who could easily run 12 miles and not be tired. You didn’t know that I got a call on the way to pre-school and had to meet my grandmother at the hospital instead of taking that nap I so desperately needed.
That I still hadn’t ate for the day or had my coffee and it was already 4 pm. You didn’t know that I had just saved him from being hit by a car because he took off running in the parking lot after me screaming at him to stop. You didn’t know that he had tried to pour his own milk this morning only to cover the entire kitchen floor in the brand new gallon of milk, which is why I had to return to the store after just being here yesterday. You didn’t know that yesterday we were here and he was jumping around like this he knocked over a display of sodas that exploded everywhere and covered not only us but the poor little old lady in the wheel chair behind us that could not get out of the way and afterwards I was told I need to keep better control of my child.
What you definitely didn’t know what that I was doing the best I can with the cards I have been dealt and no one knows what it is going to be like until they have had these cards dealt to them. I was unaware how hard it actually is to be a mother to a little boy. I had no idea how many times I would have to find some way to as quickly as possible contain his energy so that I can get anything done.
So all I ask is that you is that you hold off on judging and wait until you are a mother to judge me for what I have done because there was so much I was not prepared for as a mother.