There are lots of reasons why we might suddenly find that we don’t really have a social life. Work demands, family commitments, and even poor health can all contribute to a drop-off in play. But a social life can have a lot of advantages. It can help us to unwind and gain some perspective. It can encourage us to get out and experience more. It can also help us to maintain important relationships with friends and family members. Lots have studies have now indicated that our social life isn’t just fun, it’s important for our general wellbeing. Nevertheless, if we have allowed ourselves to slip socially, it can feel overwhelming to get “back in the game”. The trick is to start small. With a bit of forward planning and consideration, we can create a social life that truly benefits both us and our family.
Our social life might have suffered for no reason, but on the other hand there could be a good reason. Think carefully and honestly. Do you still relate to your friends in the way you used to? Do you have people around you who truly share your values and accept you as you are? When you’re creating a social life, it’s important to make the effort with people who are positive and supportive. Don’t feel like you should have company for the sake of it. Toxic or negative influences are far more harmful than even having no social life at all. Be selective of who is in your life. If they add meaning and joy to your life then work hard to maintain the relationship. If you have fallen out of touch with them and want to get back in touch then be honest. Send a sincere message that explains you’re sorry to have fallen out of touch and want to pick up where you left off. There are few messages that are as lovely to receive as an old friend making contact again. A smaller circle of friends that you truly relate to is more valuable than several casual acquaintances. Emphasise quality over quantity!
If we haven’t been out or met with friends in a while, it is easy to become overwhelmed. Try to leave yourself plenty of time to prepare. If you’re susceptible to anxiety then this is particularly important. Pick a venue you like and feel comfortable in. Try to know in advance who will be there in your group. Don’t leave it until the last minute to get ready or choose an outfit. If you’re getting ready with friends or a partner, this can add fun and relaxation to the event. Whether it’s as simple as applying lipstick, or as elaborate as grooming a goatee, enjoy the process! You will arrive far more relaxed and confident if you have prepared well and not rushed.
When getting back to a social life, it is important to acknowledge what you truly enjoy. Don’t suggest a night of clubbing or bar crawling if that is not your scene. You are not likely to enjoy it and will quickly fall back into avoiding a social life again. If you would prefer a meal out, a day trip, or even a coffee then suggest that. It can even make a great change to have a get-together at home. Your friends will feel truly invited into your life and you can save on travel and other expenses. With a one pot meal in the oven and a little wine, you can make it a relaxing but memorable night! Choose what you know you will genuinely enjoy and your social life will instantly improve.