When I became a mother, I never knew my entire life would be turned upside down. I was the first of my friends to become a mom and many of them struggled to understand what happened to me, why I changed so much and why I all of a sudden didn’t have the time and energy to go out. These are things only moms understand. So, here is the top 10 things that changed when I became a mother:
- Naptime isn’t for the kids
Let’s be honest here nap time is a much needed break for mommies to regain their sanity. If it wasn’t for nap time there would be many mommy meltdowns. God made babies and kids sleep more so that we had a fighting chance at keeping up with their energy. Monkey man no longer naps but he does have a set quiet time everyday where he needs to be in his room doing something quiet for an hour.
- A clean house can become a disaster zone in 10 minutes
Kids know how to make messes. I cannot tell you how many times I have had one room completely cleaned up only to walk into the next and find toys, cups, and trash all over in the next. Monkey man is now 4 and he moves fast! He is at that stage where he thinks he can do all things on his own and he sure does try. While this is sometimes helpful, it is not always the best idea. Not to mention the finger prints that you now have everywhere. I will never understand how they constantly have sticky fingers!
- Going potty is a group activity
Why is it that anytime you are about to go to the bathroom they follow you? And you may be able to sneak in there and lock the door but 5 seconds later they are shaking the knob or sticking their fingers under the door dying to get in? Once you become a mom all privacy is out the window.
- The smell of baby soap is heaven
Babies are always so cute and cuddly but they are so stinky! Between the dirty diapers, the spit up, and the smell of milk, the combination is enough to gag you. Thankfully, Johnson and Johnson solved this problem with an amazing solution. Baby soap. I am in love with their night time soap and monkey man still uses it because it smells so delish! Seriously smell a baby before they have a bath, not so yummy!
- Stretch marks aren’t anything to be embarrassed of.
Becoming a mom changes your body. Many women have a hard time struggling with how much their bodies change. I remember months ago someone posted on facebook about stretch marks being tiger stripes. It means that you grew a human with your body. You felt every kick and tumble. It is a sign that you sacrificed your body for your child. That is never anything to be embarrassed of. To me the fact that I can’t sneeze or laugh without peeing a little was way more embarrassing then earning my stripes!
- Some nights you make at least 2 dinners
Kids are often picky eaters. If you are like me you will go nights where you will stand firm that you are only making one thing for dinner and if they don’t eat it then they don’t eat. There are other nights where you give in and make them a PB&J sandwich because there is no possible way that you can deal with another meltdown and child coming out at 11:30 at night because their stomach is growling.
- No is your least favorite word
I cannot tell you how many times a day I hear no. Are you going to clean up your toys? NO! Are you going to get in the bath? NO! Are you going to eat your veggies? NO! The moment that children learn the word no becomes the moment they use it for everything. Every melt down, fit, punishment includes the word no. Some days no is used so much by both me and him I think I am going to jump off the balcony if I hear it again.
- A pony tail means you had time to do your hair
With kids you learn the quicker you get ready the better. This becomes even more true when they are on the move and able to climb. Like I said above, they are like tornados and will quickly destroy the house. So yes, every time you see me my hair is up, it makes it easier for me to see what they are doing and less likely that I will get anything sticky in it.
- Baby wipes have 1,000,000 uses
Seriously, monkey man hasn’t been in diapers for over 2 years and we still get the jumbo box of wipes at Costco. I keep them in my car for a quick way to wipe up anything they spill, wipe mouths and sticky hands, and to wipe off any toys or items that go with him into Pre-K. It can wipe the sticky finger prints off my phone after he used them. It can quickly wipe up a spill. They can be used to wipe off everything. They can be used in place of a Kleenex. They can be used to take off makeup. They can be used to wipe the kitchen counters. They can be used for so many things I should do a post on just baby wipes.
10. Days fly by.
In the beginning, days blend into each other. As it goes on you end up looking back and thinking they were just born last week how do I have a 4 year old already? This is why it is so important for me to never waste a day with him. You will never get today back and tomorrow is never promised. So while they may be having a bad day, they may have had a meltdown every 20 minutes, and they may have destroyed house with their sticky fingers, you still tuck them in at night and thank God for one more day with them as part of your life.
What would be on your list?